Number 1 is your inside world, your emotions, your feelings (aren’t these the same thing?), your world view, your disposition, your personality, your likes and dis-likes, your sense of self.
Number 2 Reality is the outside world, the people, the sounds, the colors, the shapes, the emotions of those near you.
Number 3 Reality is where these two worlds meet. This may be as far as your eyes can see, near the edge of your skin or it may be at the end of your aura, or it may be miles away, if you practice mindfulness.
If you think of your moment to moment consciousness this way (with three perspectives, all different), it is clear why you sometimes have a hard time making a decision.
You might want to stop and ask yourself, “How does this decision affect all three of my worlds?”
It becomes confusing to know what is right for you? Should I marry or no? Should I go to school longer? Or get a job? Should I stay here or move to….far away?
There is, possibly, even a No. 4 reality, the culture we live in. The belief of what is normal and what is weird lies in the beliefs of the collective others. Even if you have decided to be “different” and not bound by the norm, the culture does impact your decisions. It takes more energy to go counter to your culture than to abide by its “normal”. No wonder you can get tied into knots about big decisions. Going to a movie or not is not a big deal whereas going to Africa to help the refugees is much more difficult. These 4 realities make the entire endeavor of deciding even more complex.
Yet once aware of the forces implicit in each of these important considerations can improve your chances of making the “right” decision for you. We are all different because our brains summon up different chemicals to our individual experiences, so your decision will only work for you, no one else.
Being aware of all 4 of these realities can assist your brain chemicals in working to your benefit. If you focus on each reality for a moment then check out the others one by one, you can use your imagination to find the one that turns you on. That’s the right one.